When you get more work, but not more money - do this:

This question came in recently. 


I feel like I‚Äôm stuck and will never get promoted to the next level!! They regularly give me more work and responsibility but not the money or the title that comes with it. You have to stay here forever to get promoted and they expect you to take anything they give you to do and be grateful for the ‚Äúopportunity.‚Ä̬†¬†

You have options, but first a story...

A friend of mine, we'll call him, Rex, had a boss known to us as "Cruella DeVille." The stories he told about this monster were unreal. 

For a period of about six months, a consultant joined the practice and became a kind of a mentor to Rex.

Before leaving, she took Rex to lunch one day and said:

“I don’t know if you realize this, so I’m telling you out loud, to your face: you are being abused. What I've seen here is textbook abuse. "

By validating the distant bell of "this doesn't feel right" Rex was already half-hearing,

his mentor's straight talk was the nudge Rex needed to get out of there. 

I’m not saying you're experiencing abuse, but it sounds like you feel you're being taken advantage of.

First: trust your feelings, if something feels out of whack, it usually is. 

It's your call to make as to whether you're going to put up with it. 

Next: it's on you to tell them you feel overloaded and aren't okay with the pace of your pay increases and promotions.

Don't assume they know.  

Know this: you teach people how to treat you. 

Are they giving it to you because they know you haven't learned how to push back or set boundaries?

That's a skill many haven't learned by the time they start working, so it's not uncommon to struggle with managing work transactions of this sort. 

The power hierarchy makes this even trickier.

The good news is, it's learnable. For example. 

When bossy boss loads on more work, there are some phrases to have at the ready…for example:

Do you already have part of my workload earmarked for delegation to someone else or do you want me to suggest someone to take it? 

If you don't want to be treated like a workhorse, then respond like a leader.

That means: define boundaries, priorities and delegate. Be professional.

This scenario can be frustrating, don't let your emotions fog your glasses.